This is kind of a loaded question depending on where you are in life. I just recently turned 50 and I am learning about relationship on a much deeper level than I ever have before. It seems to me that we, as human beings, are a lot more codependent in relationship than we realize. I have come to this conclusion with the recent passing of my father.
There was a lot of tension in my life where my father was concerned. Now that he is gone, it is not there anymore. I realize that most of my relationships exist in this tension of unresolved whatever. It depends on the relationship.
It is freeing and paralyzing to realize that love is not tension or polarity. For me it is becoming how I can show up for myself and then relate to another. So if I am fully accepting and loving and honoring myself and my journey, then I can be with another at a level of true listening and allowing. I can listen without agenda and I can allow myself to be loved as I wish to love another.
This is a clean slate and I look forward to feeling more at home in this new place of relationship.
There was a lot of tension in my life where my father was concerned. Now that he is gone, it is not there anymore. I realize that most of my relationships exist in this tension of unresolved whatever. It depends on the relationship.
It is freeing and paralyzing to realize that love is not tension or polarity. For me it is becoming how I can show up for myself and then relate to another. So if I am fully accepting and loving and honoring myself and my journey, then I can be with another at a level of true listening and allowing. I can listen without agenda and I can allow myself to be loved as I wish to love another.
This is a clean slate and I look forward to feeling more at home in this new place of relationship.